India, March 8 -- Literature and films often paint romantic relationships in an idealised light. In reality, however, conflicts are common and relationships need work. Jeff Guenther, a licensed professional counsellor based in Portland, took to Instagram recently to share three signs based on attachment research that point to a healthy relationship: 1. Feeling safe enough to be vulnerable A healthy relationship lets a person be vulnerable with their partner without fear of punishment or abandonment. "If vulnerability in your relationship has ever gotten you punished, mocked or abandoned, that is probably not a 'you' problem. It's most likely an attachment problem," noted Jeff. 2. Nervous system co-regulation The second sign of a healthy relationship is when one partner's nervous system begins to calm in the presence of the other: a phenomenon known as co-regulation, explained Jeff. This means that a person is not anxious around their partner as they are not performing any expected role. 3. Conflicts do not always feel threatening to the relationship In a healthy relationship, conflicts happen, but they do not feel like a threat to the existence of the relationship."In a secure attachment, you can disagree, and even fight, without it activating an existential panic that everything is about to fall apart," explained the therapist....