Kuala Lampur, April 9 -- I post quite regularly on social media.

Work updates, talks I give, articles I write, books I am reading, people I meet, and the occasional kopi-o moment. Sometimes the posts are polished. Sometimes they are just thoughts captured quickly before they disappear. It has become part of how I process things, and perhaps part of how I stay connected with people.

But if you scroll through my feed, you will notice something missing. You will very rarely find photos of my family. Except for Hari Raya.

Once a year, we take a proper family photo. Coordinated outfits (it's purple this year, or lilac to my wife!), slightly forced smiles, everyone looking in roughly the same direction. That one makes it online. The rest sta...