India, July 11 -- We don't think it will happen to us, because our friends are decent people, right?

When it does happen, it can feel like there are no right answers: Does one tell a friend their partner is likely cheating on them? Does one talk to the cheating spouse first? What is a good way to break such news?

I've had people approach me with clear-headed answers to all of the above, but new questions now plague them: What if the person already knows, and telling them will only make a bad situation worse? What if I break my friend's heart and upend their life, and they end up wishing I'd never told them?

A young woman I am counselling, let's call her Tahira, is currently being haunted by such questions. The 28-year-old lawyer saw he...