India, Sept. 17 -- 1. Niyatii N Shah, 50, sexuality educator

A good gift to yourself on your 30th birthday? Leaving behind the myth that sex should always be spontaneous. In long-term relationships, intimacy may sometimes need intention and planning. That doesn't make it less exciting or meaningful. Desire can be influenced by stress, exhaustion, hormones, mental wellbeing, body image, relationship dynamics and life. It deserves curiosity and understanding, not shame. So, start asking better questions: What do I enjoy? What feels good and comfortable to me? What are my boundaries? Can I communicate honestly with my partner? Do I feel emotionally and physically safe? Am I making choices because I genuinely want to-or because I feel pressu...