Srinagar, Oct. 1 -- Perhaps one of the most painful changes is the emergence of a social yardstick for determining who deserves to speak, participate or even feel comfortable in a gathering. In many family and social gatherings,conversations can unconsciously revolve around income, employment, marriage and academic achievement. If someone is earning well, his or her opinion may be given greater importance. If someone is unmarried, the inevitable question may be, "When are you getting married?" If someone is married without children, people may ask when a child is coming. If someone is a student, the question may be, "Did you qualify for the examination?" If someone is unemployed, the conversation may become uncomfortable. Such questions m...