Srinagar, Nov. 12 -- There is an unspoken, ever-ready reflex in human conflict The more we feel guilty, the more we want to fix our gaze on the outside world, the more we need to take its shock of guilt onto ourselves. We look for someone close, someone longstanding, someone who can listen and stay loyal without being noticed as a conspirator. Then we strike. We whirl accusations, ignore us, or poke at us with sharpness and hurt; metaphorical punches to bleed off our own unhealed failings. How many times has someone got wounded for an error that started from 100% on our side of the table? The solution, found in human relationships to a staggering degree, is easy: until our conscience is cleansed. We tell ourselves we are supposed to give ...