India, May 24 -- The human need for social connection is strong, but isn't found easily. This elusiveness makes it all the more delightful when you find a group focused on a common interest, and then slowly discover that it includes people you would like as friends. That apart from the common hobby that has brought you together, your values and ethics are similar.

And so it was that I gazed with equal parts surprise and delight at a message in the group in the wake of Asha Bhosle's death. In the slew of songs that were shared, I read this about one of the songs: "Don't watch the picturisation of it though. It assumes that stalking is an acceptable form of courtship!!"

Why was I delighted? Because the message was from a man, one of the h...