New Delhi, April 12 -- "What counts in making a happy marriage is not how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility." - Leo Tolstoy

It is a deceptively simple sentence from one of history's most complicated men. Leo Tolstoy did not write this from a place of romantic ease. He wrote it from the middle of a marriage that was, by most accounts, a battlefield. Perhaps, that is exactly why it rings so true.

The popular idea of a good marriage is built around compatibility. Same values, same humor, same vision for the future. Dating apps are built on this premise. Compatibility tests, personality matching, shared interests: the assumption is that the right pairing will reduce friction to near zero.

Tolstoy's line cuts cleanly ...